

The body as a weapon: “If America was going to hate me for being black and gay, then I might as well make a weapon out of myself.” (130).Love and honesty: “I did exactly what I thought all people who love each other do: I changed the subject I changed myself I erased everything I had just said I erased myself so I could be her son again.” (114).

But it was all I wanted until I had it.” (18) Desire: “One more good look, that’s all I wanted.


Each piece builds into a larger examination of race and queerness, power and vulnerability, love and grief: a portrait of what we all do for one another-and to one another-as we fight to become ourselves. Through a series of vignettes that chart a course across the American landscape, Jones draws readers into his boyhood and adolescence-into tumultuous relationships with his family, into passing flings with lovers, friends, and strangers. The 'I' it seems doesn't exist until we are able to say, 'I am no longer yours.'" Haunted and haunting, How We Fight for Our Lives is a stunning coming-of-age memoir about a young, black, gay man from the South as he fights to carve out a place for himself, within his family, within his country, within his own hopes, desires, and fears. We sacrifice the people who dared to raise us. "We sacrifice former versions of ourselves. One of the best books of the year as selected by The New York Times The Washington Post NPR Time The New Yorker O, The Oprah Magazine Harper's Bazaar Elle BuzzFeed Goodreads and many more."People don't just happen," writes Saeed Jones. From award-winning poet Saeed Jones, How We Fight for Our Lives-winner of the Kirkus Prize and the Stonewall Book Award-is a "moving, bracingly honest memoir" (The New York Times Book Review) written at the crossroads of sex, race, and power.
